Family Constellations

We are born not only into a family, but into a living system with a history.

Within that system are relationships, experiences, losses, loyalties and patterns that began long before us. Some are known and remembered. Others remain hidden or unresolved, yet may continue to influence the generations that follow.

In Family Constellations, we bring these hidden dynamics into view.

What we experience as entirely personal — a recurring relationship pattern, a feeling we cannot explain, difficulty moving forward, carrying too much responsibility or a sense of not fully belonging — may sometimes be connected to something larger within the family system.

We can find ourselves unconsciously carrying what once belonged to someone else: repeating an unresolved pattern, remaining loyal to someone who was excluded, or taking on a place or responsibility that was never ours.

A constellation creates a space where these relationships and entanglements can become visible and, importantly, felt.

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As the deeper movements within the family system reveal themselves, what belongs to the past can begin to return to the past. Responsibilities can return to where they belong, those who have been excluded can be acknowledged, and we can begin to find our own place within the family system.

This does not mean rejecting our family or leaving it behind.

When we no longer need to carry what is not ours, we can receive the strength of those who came before us without having to repeat everything that travelled with them.

From this place, love no longer needs to express itself through unconscious loyalty or repetition. And when we can see more clearly what has been shaping our feelings, behaviours and choices, something else becomes possible:

we can choose our own movement forward.

How I work

I normally facilitate Family Constellations in a group of at least seven people, where participants can serve as representatives within the constellation.

It is also possible to work one-to-one, where we explore the same underlying dynamics through a more intimate process adapted to you and the family system you bring into the work.

Each constellation unfolds differently. We do not begin by deciding what the answer should be. We begin with what is present and allow the system to show us what is asking to be seen.